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Hi everyone. Hi Santa. Hi Santa. Hi Santa. Ho ho ho.
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Ho ho ho. Welcome to the Stride Christmas podcast. This is episode five and I am so pleased
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to be joining you here from the North Pole today. Have you all been good? I’ve been I’ve been right good. I’ve
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been right good. Brilliant. Well, this is what I want to do. I want to start this podcast off by
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just going around. I want everybody to just tell me a bit about uh the costume
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uh and what you what you’ve came as today for the Stride Christmas podcast. And then I think we go around again and
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uh I want you to tell me uh why you should be on the nice list. Oh god.
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How’s that? Yeah. Okay. After you show us. What if Okay, I’m dressed as a reindeer,
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particularly Rudolph, but with one antler,
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cuz Yeah, let fitting the neurody divergent theme of it all. Let him Let him see it. Turn face the
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camera. Camera two, just I tell I tell you what, I wouldn’t have you driving my sleigh like that.
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I Excuse me. Do you know you’ve got an antler out, sir? I was just going to say get bor. So
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this your sle registration please. Why do you think the slay’s been going all right?
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Harry. Yeah. Feel free to introduce yourself. Tell us what you’re wearing. A man that needs no introduction.
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Tell us who you are wearing. Uh I’m wearing a Christmas suit cuz I wanted to look smart out of everyone. So
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Well, yeah. What was the original idea? What was we going to get you? Uh Sprout. No, I don’t know what it was.
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I wanted him to be a Brussels sprout really bad and I was on board with it because I feel like it’s it suits his sort of like
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bitterness. I’m not controversial and not a lot of
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people like him. Well, you love him or you hate him. No, actually, this is the thing. I think we
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need to circle back to that point that Miles just made. We all love Harry. We are Harry’s biggest cheerleaders. I
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think without Harry there’d be no us. No, Harry is Well, there would be, but you’d have
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terrible photos. And even still, it’s not just that, though. The office would be missing
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its pulse. I don’t know. Like, he’s the heart. He’s the heart. Yeah, it’s um
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Yeah, a man that needs no introduction. We’re his biggest cheerleaders. I’m going to get rid of the beard now because it’s doing my head in. It keeps
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coming off. So, I’m having to literally hold it there. So, and I want you to be able to hear what I’m saying. Um, so I’ve now turned from Santa into uh Elf
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on a Shelf. Santa post Gillette endorsement post Philips One Blade.
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Gillette, the best of Oh, mate. Do you know who wrote that? Well, it’s Tom Grennan, isn’t it?
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No. Yeah, we know who. No. Who wrote it? The best man can get.
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Was it John Par. Yes, it was John Par. As if you Yeah.
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Was it John? Because it never got because he wrote it for himself and then never did it. No, he wrote it for himself. Then
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Gillette wanted it. So they said you could either have royalties or we’ll give you a one-off fee and they were
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like, “Oh, it’s toss song anyway.” So I just took he took off took a one-off fee and bearing in mind it is now obviously
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Gillette’s loan. Yeah. As if you knew it were going to be John Par. I just like I I heard it once I think Travis told me.
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I can believe that. Yeah. Um damn. Anyway, right. I love John Park. John Paul. I mean he’s from Donny is in
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hefield. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Does he live in psych house now? I’m not going to disclose his address.
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John Far on St. Elmo’s fire.
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I think Travis I was 17. Travis said he went to his house but I
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don’t know if that’s actually true or not. Um yeah cuz he recorded there. He had a studio um called Somewhere in Yorkshire.
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Yeah. That was close. Yeah. He still it’s open to the public. You can book to record there. Yeah. As if they just wear psychos. I mean,
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we’re docking. We’re doxing John Park. Stop him. Okay. So, that’s the story behind Harry Suit. And Harry, it is a pleasure to
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have you on the podcast, mate. We have uh you’ve mentioned me every single time.
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So, now you no longer have to mention me. No, he’s here in the flesh. Yeah, it’s it’s a pleasure to have you.
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Yeah. And Miles, um could you please tell us what
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you’ve gone as today? Oh. Um, I’m obviously a cracker.
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Obviously. Obviously. Okay. Um, and we’ve got a
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cracking on. Okay. Let’s go back to the other point. Cheers. Why should you be on the nice
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list? Um, or shouldn’t you be? I was just going to say, should I really be on the nice list? I don’t know.
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Argue your case. I am Judge Claus. I’m George. I’m What if I don’t want to be on the nice
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list? Okay, assuming everybody wants to be on the nice list. Why are you on the nice list?
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Um, I don’t know. Why am I on the nice? You’re on the naughty list. That’s it. He’s done. Done. Like,
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Harry. Well, why would you be on the nice list? Probably because I’ve known you longer
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than Chez. Okay. What? A lot of parallels being drawn here between you and SH. A lot of
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uh goes a long way. A lot of competition. Yeah. Um I respect it. Yeah. competition can
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be healthy. And uh Miles W. So the other day um
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I helped two old ladies get onto a bus. One of them realized she’d got on the
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wrong bus. So I helped her off before it even set off. So yeah, if if for nothing
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else, helping them two old ladies get on to get on bus. Okay. All right. Yeah. Well, I think that probably sounds
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like one of them things that would just permanently put you on the nice list and do whatever you want. I reckon so well and so much so that I
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have been doing whatever I want. So, I’ve just been setting bins on fire in the bin.
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Can’t say bins on the local. This this cracker hat thing
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is killing me. Right, you’re all on the naughty list, which is fine because we don’t do things
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conventionally. I definitely on the list. I was going to say, okay, if the case of insulting shows get you
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want the naughty list, then we’re never on the good one. We’re never. So, just to set the pace and the agenda
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for this podcast, um we have got a bunch of crackers, uh which have been created
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in Santa’s workshop, uh aka upstairs in seven studios. Thank you for
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making these up. Thank you for making these up, Jordan. Uh he’s put some he says he’s put some pretty cool stuff in
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here. So whatever we Oh, these we’re gonna we’re gonna open them up. Uh inside will be a category and let’s just
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talk about the categories and just see how we get on. Nice. All right. Why was you confused what crackers we were pulling then? Miles,
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did you think we was just going to pull nose?
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It’s not that type of podcast, Miles. Lucky me. My birthday’s next month, guys.
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children. Don’t snap my children in half.
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He’s like, he’s one go that watch.
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Uh, Miles, do you want to take the first pick? Uh, yeah.
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Y, this is so stupid. Yeah. Very, very good. Yeah. You have a
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good three, two, one. Oh, wow. Oh, bang. I would.
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Who’s the stronger one? Okay, let’s uh at the minute it’s me. We’ve seen that video, Miles. Yeah, we have.
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Let’s Let’s see what’s inside. I’ll read it out nice and loud. You It was your It was yours.
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Yeah. I mean, I didn’t win, but Christmas is about giving. Exactly.
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If neurodiversity is a superpower, what is your signature move?
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M. What would mine be? I could I could borrow a glass eye to
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sleep. So like I reckon it’s that. What? Yeah, I could borrow a glass eye to
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sleep and I could talk the leg off a chair. That is more like a super villain. Yes, I’m the bore master.
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Dr. Bore. Yeah, Dr. Dr. Bore. Yeah. Oh my god.
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Um Yeah, just being incredibly dull. That’s what my superpower would be. Are
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we all doing it or is it just the is it just the person that pulls the cracker? No. So, we’re gonna we’re gonna talk
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about it for a bit of time. So, uh I my superpower if I was to have a superpower
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for my neurode divergence, assuming that I’ve got ADHD, we I know we’ve mentioned
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in previous series is that we think that is the case. Um
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it’d be Do you know what? Actually, I’m going to do mine as like a as as sort of the opposite. I’m going to do it as a
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way to counteract what I struggle with. I would love That’s not the question. I don’t care.
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I would love if we don’t care what the question is, then the questions may as well be anything. It may as well be like But it’s like So, if you think about it
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though, like Batman’s Batman hates bats. Um, does he?
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Batman hates bats. Yeah. He he like uh he had like a phobia of them. Um, so
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and uh Spider-Man got bit by a spider. It’s not things that necessarily help
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you. And I don’t think that while my ADHD if you like helps me in to in
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certain degrees, I think this one is way more fitting for the superpowers that I think I would have mastery over time.
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No time. No, that’s that’s the thing about you being late to everything. It’s
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not a bad thing that you’re late to everything. It’s actually you’re just optimistic about the time that you have.
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That’s it. But imagine if like I’m never late because whenever I’m late, time just
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stops. It cuts off wherever I’m late from and everybody else is just frozen in time until I get there. That’s kind
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of like how my ADHD would be a superpower if that makes sense. I would love that anyway. That’d really help me
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in my life. Can you please arrange this? Yeah. Could this could this could this happen, please? Yeah. Cuz then I’d never be late again.
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Imagine. Yeah. like Burners watch type beat like um well a wizard’s never late
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is he’s do you know the crazy thing right the only way you could arrange this is by facilitating a meeting with the genie
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for me to have like a you know a wish and make this happen but I would be late for that meeting like even if you was listen I’ve made a
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few calls like that blue genie from Aladdin’s going to be here
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voiced by Will Smith like he’s we’ve got him like we’ve got Will Smith
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we’ve got We’ve got tough after the slapping incident after the coming to Donnie for day just going
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to make anything happen. Oh, we just took him out to market street just slapping randoms. Yeah.
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So, I would be late for that appointment. But anyway, if I could somehow have time mastery arranged as my
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superpower. Uh, I’m going to go for that. Sure. Um, and I like that it’s in the world that
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like Batman doesn’t like bat Spider-Man got bit by a spider. So, given that you’re
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caused me to have the power. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, fair. Very good. Um, you know, Electro that is it
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Electro? Electro. He fell into like a a vat of Electric Heels and then turned electric. Did he?
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Yeah. Have you never watched The Amazing Spider-Man 2. One of the worst movies ever. Yeah, that one. I liked The Amazing Spider-Man 2.
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I think I have watched it, but it’s not as good as the brain reset. So, I can’t remember. Okay. It’s probably why they
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Sh superpower. Um, I think I have the superpower of sound.
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Okay. Yeah. Ability to do you want ability to annoy everyone with the sound of my voice.
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No, but if you had a superpower, what would it be? Oh,
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I don’t know. Yeah, we know that. Anyway, to be even louder.
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To be even louder, I think would die in it. If if it if you could possibly be
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any louder than like the ability to kill with your words. Yeah. You could stop everything. Sh.
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Yeah. Damn. That’d be a apocalyptic world, wouldn’t it?
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Imagine the entire world on like a Samsung protocol as to whether
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she’s wants to spare the world or not. Whether SH speaks or not is the balance of the that would be
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Yeah. Hellish. Hellish rubbish.
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I’m sleeping shivers down your spine, don’t it? Uh, Harry, superpower.
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When you say superpower, just anything. Anything. Oh. Uh, stop time.
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Stop time. Yeah. And how would that help like you with your neuron
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be more productive? More productive. Yeah. Nice.
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What? Who wrote these? Um, these were these were Santa.
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Santa spelled neurodiversity wrong. Listen, Santa’s not in the industry of
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not work. Who wrote these? Oh, it was like No, it was Santa. All right, apparently. Was it? Let me read it.
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Let me just name shame Santa.
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New drone. Yeah, new drone diversity. New drone diversity. The silent D.
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Hey, it’s looking Hey, excellent. Um,
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I’ll shall I pick the next one? We’ll go round. No, let’s go the other way. Shall I I’ll pull a cracker.
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You’re the cracker guy. I’m the cracker. Yeah, actually you pick the crackers. Yeah.
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I’ll distribute these crackers to you. Or maybe you can nomin You can nominate people to the I’m just going to pull this cracker with
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Harry. All right. Yeah. And just Yeah. Yeah. Fine. Ready? Three, two, one. Bang. But that was
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what one autistic strength that would win employee of the month. Who wrote
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this? I don’t think it’s not grammatically correct. The sh What’s one?
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Would it would it be what’s one autistic strength that would win you employee of the month? Not would win employee of the
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month. What’s one autistic strength that would win employee of the month? I thought it’ be you, but whatever.
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What? What? What’s one or two? Yeah. What one or two strengths would win employee of the month?
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I guess you should probably comment this personally like if you was to win,
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you know, we’ve spoke in previous videos, you have a diagnosis of autism, right? Yeah. Um 16.
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So for you, if say all of a sudden Stride opens up an employee of the month thing, which we
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don’t because we don’t like our staff. No, never win it though cuz they’re all rubbish. terrible
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people. Well, Logan would just be employ of the month every month. So then no one would win. If I if I started in play of the month
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and you was to win for any trait that you have, what would it be? Uh I’m quite good at talking to people
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when when in the office. Not not just roasting cheeses, but I talk to more
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people than just chees. I think I have good conversations with them. Yeah, absolutely. I think you’ve got
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actually I think your your sort of how you’ve advanced in terms of social
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skills in the period of time that I’ve known you is I think you’ve almost made like
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20 years of of social progress in like five years. Yeah. You’ve you’ve done really well.
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That’s a strong difference, baby. That is that’s that’s what happens when we get involved. Yep. Times four. Yep. You speed that up,
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man. So yeah. So, so you’re so you’re so Yeah. Great. Great. That’s it. The like
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So, you could be the the office like
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socializer. Just wait. Just wait out the door before everyone.
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Nice guy. Oh, no. Don’t He’s a nice guy. No, please don’t.
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I’ll leave this office. Okay. Um Yeah. Okay. And uh
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don’t even care. You know what? I I’m not I don’t have autism, so I’m not going to say what autism superpower I
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would have that would make me employee of the month. But um I don’t think that was the question though. It was strength, not superpower, but all
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right. Oh, sorry. Strength employee of the month. Yeah. Yeah. So, what what would yours be, Sh?
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I don’t know. I was just trying to think while you was talking and I I don’t The one way that you would get employee
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of the month would be being silent for an entire month. You would be guaranteed
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employee of the month month after month if you didn’t speak a word.
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So almost the opposite of Harry. This is the thing. They are very much polar opposites. So
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they balance the scale. Yeah. Yeah. So, if you’re talking about like a a spectrum, I mean, this is I mean,
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you’ve Harry um has is somebody that’s had to really sort of develop his
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frequency of speech, like the amount that you talk to people and and all that kind of stuff. Whereas SHZ is is having
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to work on sometimes not speaking as much. And that’s like go like goes on is true. That’s what you’re trying one of
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the things you’re trying to work on in the office, isn’t it? to manage your loudness. Yeah, just just distraction level and
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and things like that, which is we always, you know, we always knew that was something that we’d have to work on uh throughout your time and you’re doing
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a really good job with it. Um, so that’s good. Yeah.
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So, if you didn’t talk, that’s good. Employee of the month, but I talked too much. So,
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I just won’t talk for the rest of the podcast. You’re all right with that. Yeah, cool. No, I feel like No, we like you talking.
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I feel like SHZ talks louder, but I speak longer, if that makes sense.
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Like I remember uh Jules at Stride Social said that if we win this quiz, you have to not speak at all when we do
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wombles. D. It didn’t happen. So, not sure.
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Um Okay. Uh right. Well, obviously, like I said, me and Miles don’t have We It’s
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probably not one for us to do that, but let’s Should we move on to the next one? Yeah. Um, yeah. Do you want to pull a
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cracker? Boom. Trying not to hit the mic or make too
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much noise. Bang. Jesus won again. Let’s Anyway, it’s Shzz. Sh. There you go. Given the pity one.
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I like this question. I like this question. If you could invite any celebrity to
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Christmas, dead or alive, who would it be?
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Are they still dead or do they come back to life? It just says dead or alive. Yeah. So, um, what corpse would corpse would
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you bring? What corpse would you bring with you? Is this family friend? Come on, MJ.
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You can’t put it. It’d have to be for me. Just have somebody who’s got like somebody who’s just got mad
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stories. I already know who I’m picking. Yeah. And I feel like Harry already knows. I think I know, but I might be wrong on
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this one. Go on, Harry. What’s you? Is it Young Bloodood? Yes. Yeah. I thought Yes. Mine would be Young Bloodood.
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Go on then. Cheers. What? You’ve got one thing you can say to Young Blood.
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Young blood. If you’re watching this, hi. Please call me.
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Fair enough. Harry watching this like get lost.
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If young blood’s watching this, then we are winning. Yes. Yeah. That that is good. Go on, Harry.
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Who would you be your celebrity? Is this a family friendly podcast? Um, why?
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What celebrity are you? Why? No, I won’t do that. I’ve uh I’d
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probably bring uh Robin Williams. Robin Williams. Yeah. Yeah. A lot of stories he could tell.
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Yeah. I do you know always the original genie always. Yeah. Yeah. True. Actually, yeah.
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Second genie mention in one podcast is crazy. It always takes me like a microscond to figure out if somebody’s talking about
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Robin or Robbie. Um, and I’m like, “Oh, right. Well, what about Gary Baro?
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He’d be a good dinner, I guess, but um, yeah, Stoke’s finest.” Uh, Miles, who would who would yours be?
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Um, I don’t know why response is saying like
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Jim Carrey like Oh, that’s Scub. I bet that like I bet that’d be class like now like
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Oh, yeah. Well, it depends what you want out of it cuz I got stories. If you want really funny like Jim
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Carrey, like stand up Jim Carrey. Yeah. But like Yeah. But even though like he’s kind of
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like seen behind the curtain a bit and he’s like, not that his head’s fell off, but like
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we’ve got the realest Jim Carrey of all time now. And he’s still got to be as candid. He’s still got to be that guy on
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it. Like he’s still got to be well funny. So yeah. Yeah. It would probably be Jim Carrey. Yeah. I love Jim, you know. I love Jim Carrey
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as well. He’s never won an Oscar, which is shocking. Neither have I. Equally as shock.
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You can’t compare yourself to Jim Carrey to you. That’s impossible. You’ve not won an Oscar. Why would I win an Oscar? I can’t act.
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Get all get an awful lip for someone that’s not won an Oscar. I would go for Jack Black. I’d love I’d
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love Jack Black at a dinner. And like I just feel like I saw a picture the other week of him. I’m sure he was just walking down the
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beach with like was it like Cle or something? Yeah. And he’s just in just dressed like
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bro in like cargo shorts, sliders just like just stood at Silent Road just like
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Yeah. Yeah. I know. Yeah. Literally like sticking belly out just he just does not care and I love that about him. Yeah.
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Um I’d like Yeah. I’d like to meet I’d like to meet Car Gas. Yeah. Yeah. The raid cage would be class. Yeah. Yeah. Well, if I if I had the
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choice to have them like both together, like as just Tenacious Tenacious D, that’d be it.
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Um Yeah. I mean, they split up, didn’t they? I think they’re back together. I saw something from them the other day. Uh hopefully.
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Yeah. Yeah. Um All right. Cool. No, you two do crackers.
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Yeah. Let’s go. Me too. Yeah.
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Okay. One. Wow. Well, since we’re on the giving stage,
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there you go, Logan. Happy Christmas. Thank you very much.
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You’re stranded on a desert island. Oh, no. Pick two colleagues to take with you.
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Oh, and one who would get kicked off.
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Oh, no. Right. So, I’m going to assume with this one, you
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mean colleagues? You mean people work with? Yes. I’m gonna assume you get you’re almost taking three and you get to pick two to
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stay with and one who you get rid of. Let me read that. Yeah. Is it correct?
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It might just mean like out of the two you I think it says that two colleagues take. Pick two colleagues you would take with you and and one who would get kicked
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off. Yeah. So you pick two colleagues you take with you and one that you wouldn’t basically. So one who like you’d kick off the Yeah,
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I think we do that. Let’s let’s pick two. Take two, leave one type thing like three people. Yeah. And obviously give it a Y. Don’t
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just be like, I’m going to leave this person and that’s it. Sucks. Yeah. Goes without saying, doesn’t it?
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Um, okay. Well, me and Harry just looked at each of like, yeah, you know what’s coming.
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Um, okay. She chees. Uh, oh, you start with this one. Pick two.
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Pick two. Pick two colle. Yeah. Yeah.
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Yeah. You said cheeses then and looked directly at me and I thought you was going to say you’d kick me off. I was going to say no.
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No surprises there. I wouldn’t. He says that and then he’s like so
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so pick two colleagues at Oh, probably take
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take Miles. He seems like pretty Miles seems like pretty fun guy. Miles. Yeah. Wait, how long are we on this island
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for? Well, like for the you don’t know how long that’s forable.
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Okay, Miles. Plus, he’s a magician. At least I get a live band out of it.
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A magician. Musician. New magician. Yeah, same. You said magic. I can’t even say magician.
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It will make you disappear off of this island. Just go in the water. You will appear back.
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Good thing to um uh
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Um um I’m trying to think. Imagine an answer. Imagine answering a
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question. Be crazy, would it? You know what? There’s 20. I changed my mind. Miles can get kicked off the bloody
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island. Okay. Okay. And who are you taking? Uh I’ll take um you and Joe instead now.
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Yikes. Why? Why? Yeah. Why? Why? Why do you think we
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feel like I feel like Logan would probably keep me in check. Yeah,
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fair. And Joe? Oh, Joe’s just a good laugh. Fair. Um,
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Harry. All right. Okay. Well, I can I can mention Jake so that I just mentioned him for the first time. Jake, I’m
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mentioning you because he wants to. Uh, so it be Jake obviously because he’s my independence
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coach. The second one, I like working with a lot of people because I see him. So, it’s
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It’s between Logan and Miles, which is really difficult. I can currently outbench Logan. Not
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that’s not going to help you in the long run. Yes, it will. It will. Yeah. I think that it’s hard.
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I think that um Miles would be better than me.
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Yeah, I would. He’s got kids. He’s too He’s too. Yeah, he’s far. And he won’t he won’t arrive on time
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anyway. Yeah. I’ve just have like no direction skills. I’ve been walking around in cir.
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It would be Jake and Miles. Then I’d kick Shaz off because he already knows. Mhm. Yeah. Wow.
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Because not surprised at all. No. Because you’d be quite loud.
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So So if you were very loud, I’d just go on. I just I’d just leave the island myself.
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So I’d just be on the island on my own. No. No. You’d be both Jake and Miles. So you’d be sorted. Yeah. Cool.
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You’ll be sorted. I think it drive Jake Drake insane.
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Yeah, maybe. Okay. Um, I would pick Ed cuz like Ed’s my
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goat. Mhm. Um, I just think he’d be really like
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systematic as well. Like he and he’s he’s athletic. He’d nail it. He’s athletic. Even just like the
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occupational therapy side of things like Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. He’s just he’s just on it. He just knows what he’s doing. Imagine him like assessing the the
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island and be like we’re going to do a stair lift up that palm tree. See if access to work will sort st.
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Um I’ll take Ed and
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Becky. Yeah. Yes. Becky gave me a lift to the train station and that is the kind of
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dependability that you need on a desert island. All due respect though, you know, there’s no cars on a desert island or in
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these train stations. Nor indeed train stations. Yeah. that not I’m not saying I’m taking her to the
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island because she’ll help me live to the station at the station. But she once gave me lift to the station
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and that level of selflessness has to go recognized. So Becky not um
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I gave you to the station two weeks ago. Yeah. You’re meant to. You’re like
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you’re expected to like That’s called that. Come on.
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Not expected to. No, you want to cuz you like you’re like a a pre-established friend.
28:37
Fine. Like I’m like It was very nice of Becky. Very nice of Becky. What? I love you, Becky. Becky is a incredible
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independence coach. And I mean that in every sense of the word. What does that mean? And I mean that in
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every sense of the word. Like Well, two words, independence coach.
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And the person that I’d kick off the island just for a laugh would be Michael Beal. Yeah,
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he can survive anyways. It’s quite he gets so muddy about it as well. Be like
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and then he kicked me off and Yeah. In it like it’s um Yeah.
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Yeah. Just for a laugh. I I would go um I would bring Ed and I
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would bring Jules. Jules is very like she’s very knowledgeable about outdoors and like
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she I don’t even know who she is, but she presents as like Well, she is. Yeah, she is. Stuff like
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that Jules is just good at. She wouldn’t know how to survive. Yeah. And like she’s in good nick as well. You know what I mean? Nick. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
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Yeah. She’s She’s always exercising. She’s doing all sorts of Yeah. I’ve never described anyone as being in good nick. Yeah. Good nick you.
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Yeah. Good. She looks after Sounds like a phrase on the stone. She looks after herself and and
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Ed is very, like I say, very instructional, systematic. He just be able to, you know, um
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Yeah, I think that would work. Yeah, that would work. And I don’t I don’t sense any clashes in terms of who I’d
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kick off. Uh
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he’s looking at you now. Who would proper flop? Who would? Yeah, it would really get across. Um
30:17
Michelle get You just mentioned Michelle again though. We don’t name names.
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Oh, I’ve I’ve literally double I’ve fall named I’ve government named my god. people are getting named in this
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podcast. Uh she’s named a lot. Michelle, she’s she’d get annoyed that I’ve even
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mentioned her as the one that would get picked off. And that’s the only that’s the only reason. That’s it. Don’t act.
30:40
Yeah. Next category. Next category. Uh who you
30:47
Miles is the cracker king. So, uh am I boy oh boy am I. You and Harry.
30:54
All right. Fair enough. Just go up there. Uh Harry, what color? Uh I do orange.
31:02
Thank you. Time
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season of giving. Are you just going to read it yourself? Okay, read it yourself. Oh god, there’s a picture.
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I know there is. Who drew that? Now I don’t know how good uh the We can
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get a zoom from a camera. That’s the Grinch. That is the Grinch. Santa’s got a dab
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on, don’t he? That is the Grinch. And it says,
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“What’s one piece of employment support that would even make the Grinch go to
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work?” So, okay, let’s think about it this way, guys. The Grinch. Mhm. What does he struggle with?
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Don’t like people. Yeah, that’s me there. It doesn’t like people. It doesn’t like people at all. It does
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like dogs. Mhm. Right. Max, come here, Max. Mhm.
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We’re going to make our hosel stop. Shindil.
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Oh god. We’ve only had a very brief Trump impression in this one so far. And then as soon as I saw the Grinch’s face drawn
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up, I was like, “Yeah, how long?” Five, four,
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we could steal Christmas. You’re wasted. You are wasted in this
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show. Um, that could be his job though. So, he hates Christmas. Likes dogs. I’m
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thinking somewhere where he’s um Well, we know he’s going to like working with dogs. So, what about
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like a dog groomer? Work in a He could work in a kennels. Could work in a kennel.
32:39
Dog groomer is a good one. So, we’ve got to think about what’s going to help him to be around people
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because all jobs there’s going to be people. people. We we’ve had this a lot of the time from
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clients like, well, let’s just get a job where I have to see people. It’s like in some way or another you can’t fully
32:58
avoid people. Yeah. They are we live among people. That’s it. Well, like
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to work to to I don’t know like you’ve got an end goal like it will require
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teamwork to make that thing. it will be received by people at the end typically like it’s um yeah there’s always going
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to be people involved like so I would come up with a plan I mean and we we already know some background
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information about the Grinch he had some insecurities did the Grinch when he was in school he was the only like green kid he was uh he’s
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don’t laugh Jordan it’s hard being the only green kid at school he was the only green kid they I feel
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like did I’m trying to think of the green did they like take the mess out of him because he cut his face shaving cuz
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he was like furry as well. I can’t remember. So, so he had his he’d been bullied. The
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guy the guy’s going to need some job coaching support, right, to help him
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reestablish uh relationships with people with his teammate. So, um with his
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teammates in particular, because he’s going to probably some kind of a team that he’s going to be working with. So,
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he’s got to um develop some communication tools with his job coach on how he’s gonna do that.
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Might be like pre uh set sort of phrases, responses
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like I’m not saying like we turn him into like a toy where it’s like Yeah. Yeah.
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You know, um but we can do some some like coaching on on his communication
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with the team. So, encourage conversations. um could even be like look listen you know John over there is
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really into uh fishing why don’t you ask him why it’s fishing you know what I mean he always likes to talk about it giving people just like
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giving them inroads to then go from to build up some comfort and communicate in the workplace
34:43
um there there are various u methods that we would use for that in the workplace in terms of making people
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making sure people have got that support uh but yeah job coaching is a big one um
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coping strategy so what does it do is in an environment where all of a sudden all the all the who’s come into the I don’t
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know the shop that he’s working at and they want to buy
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chocolate. They love chocolate. They’re buying. It’s just it’s it’s flooding in with customers. It’s really
35:15
busy. All of a sudden he’s like the Grinch is like Max what are we doing? We need to get back to the tower.
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All that kind of stuff. But instead you can’t have to do he implements this. This is the Grinch crushes Charlie in
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the Chocolate Factory. must be he he implements I don’t know what the what the shops have got in Hville but he works in one of them and uh he
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implements coping strategies that have been preset with him during his time uh in his sessions with you know I don’t
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know stride um and uh
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so that could be simple things like the Grinch just needs a quiet space to go to in the back and just remind his
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colleague that he needs a minute just a minute regulate himself things like that Um,
35:57
there’s also I mean really we need to get to know more about the Grinch. Oh yeah. We need to do a a bespoke support plan
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uh to make sure that he has the right support in the workplace and that he’s not going to spoil Christmas. Exactly this. But where could he get
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bespoke care and support plans from Logan? Well, I’m glad you asked, Miles. Uh,
36:17
no idea. If you need if you need any support with finding these things, you can head to our website www.stry.co.uk
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UK uh where you can find out a future for everyone
36:30
where you can find out all the information about our services including employment support and we can help you to uh enter a job.
36:38
Please ask the bill payers permission before entering don’t know someone. Yeah.
36:44
Okay. Um anybody else got any final bits of encouragement? I mean that feeling
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of feeling a bit different, struggling to socialize, all that. These are it’s all things that we’ve we’ve came up
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against, I think, when going into the workplace, especially when it’s somewhere that we’re we’re new at. Um, what kind of advice would we give
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would you guys give to the Grin? Do you got anything that you can think of? I ain’t got great advice.
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No. Well, what about
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Okay, well, fair enough. Leave it. Any advice? No. No advice.
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Great. It’s probably not good advice. No, I mean, okay. So, you’ve gone somewhere new for the first time and
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it’s a load of new people and you’re nervous and you you you struggle to socialize at the best of times. Don’t
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know what what do you tell him? Would you what would you do?
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Um, Harry.
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Well, I won’t really speak to him because he’s green. Wow. Wow. Harry. Harry. Harry. Harry. Harry.
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Wow. Harry.
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Has the Grinch and Wicked not taught to you enough? No. I’m not speaking to him cuz he’s green.
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So, you wouldn’t give him any advice? No. Don’t talk to me. don’t like green. Miles, what advice would you could you
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give the Grinch? Oh, I mean, not to speak to Harry. Just to be patient and I think that goes
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into any bit of advice I can give anyone on anything, but especially in that in
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in a world where the Grinch are going to work and he looks wildly different to everybody else and he is wildly different to everybody else.
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Just be patient and like you’ll not you attract bees with honey.
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Mhm. You know what I mean? Like you don’t you don’t attract bees by running around trying to catch them and chase them and
38:43
kicking off. Like you like So slow it down, be patient. And I mean it sounds
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very optimistic and that oh everything will just be fine if you’re patient. But like yeah just yeah have a well yeah no
38:57
yeah be patient because it’s it’s something that’s helped me a lot. I mean there were time where every time I joined a new workplace like oh don’t you
39:03
remind me of Richard Iardi from from IT crowd? like, “No, I just have glasses and curly hair and I’m approachable.
39:10
That’s We don’t look alike.” But like I know that they they’re not trying to be offensive.
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They’re just I don’t know trying to I don’t know, relate to me. I
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don’t know. Like it’s um but yeah, just be patient. Would you have found then that I don’t was it was there a time when you
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did get more triggered than maybe you would today? Like that?
39:34
Yeah. Yeah. Yes. There would have been a time where I would have had all the time in the world to have let something like
39:39
that completely ruin my day. But in the Grinch’s case, he didn’t need
39:45
that. So like just if there’s one thing I can tell him when he’s joining a new workplace,
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just to be patient. It’s good advice. Yeah. It’s great advice. Yeah.
39:57
Miles. Mhm. Who’s next?
40:02
Me and Shaz. Cool. Let’s go. Three, two, one.
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Never mind.
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There’s no toys. I was just thinking that there’s no prizes or toys in these. No, there is prizes. The prizes
40:25
get from me after asking the question. I’ll give you the gift of knowledge.
40:30
Gift of knowledge.
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What is one coping strategy you I can’t read that
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you accidentally Oh, accidentally figured out. Um,
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I know one for you. Go on. No, don’t tell him. Okay, I know for you.
40:56
No, I’m good. Let him figure it out. Okay. Do you want other people to go before
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you or do you would you like to start? I mean,
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someone else can start. Okay. I have an idea of what you might think.
41:18
I I think Yeah. Yeah. I think I know what you’re going to say. Is it something that begins that to do
41:23
with loops? No, I went there first. Uh I suppose you
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accidentally figured that. Yeah, because I Yeah, go on. Yeah, go tell talk about that then. We’ll go back. We can come back to
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me or whatever. Yeah, while it’s fresh. What? Yeah. So, talk about I guess the loops
41:43
and how you Yeah. So, um yeah, the loops. Uh well, they were I don’t know how do you
41:50
describe them? Like they’re not plugged. Yeah, they they the
41:55
Yeah, the loop ear plugs. Yeah. So, I got some for my birthday a while ago. I use them.
42:01
Um not so much in the office anymore, but that’s mainly because I’ve got my headphones on and
42:07
can’t really have earplugs on, headphones over the top. Kind of defeats the point of each other, but I do use
42:12
them like when I go to concerts and other stuff and they help a lot. And I’m a lot quieter.
42:18
Like people have been like, “Why are you so quiet?” And I’m like, “Cuz I’ve got my ear plugs in.” What? At a concert?
42:23
Wait, no, not just at concert. They’re good for concerts because they block music out. Yeah. But like other situations like um I was
42:31
out with my mom once and my mom was like, “I can’t hear you. You’re too quiet.” And I was It’s like, “Yeah, it’s
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cuz I got my earplugs in.” Why would that make you too quiet?
42:42
I don’t know. Would it make you louder? Yeah, I thought this. I was like it. But
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apparently they do. Loops are a bit weird. I I don’t know if
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it’s anything to do with the way that they move uh or how they work the because obviously like if you’ve got
43:01
headphones on. Yeah. But the way that loops are is they’ve got whole like and they the way that
43:07
they channel sound waves or whatever is different to how normal. So I can maybe
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imagine it’s high fidelity ear protection is the phrase you’re looking for. Yeah.
43:18
Yeah. Yeah. It takes all that top end off, but you can still hear music crystal clear. It’s highfidelity noise
43:24
reduction. So, talk about earplugs. So, so maybe Chezz was talking quieter
43:31
because it was so clear to him. Maybe that could Yeah, that sounds about right
43:37
because there was multiple times where I was like people was like, “Take them out and we can’t hear you.”
43:43
Because there’s less background noise so he can hear himself better. Maybe. Maybe. Yeah, that could. Yeah, maybe. Anyway, that’s
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a really good I thought they were very helpful. The the sort of the the way that my mind went with it when we was talking about
43:56
um coping strategies that you’ve accidentally was predated at all that it was music cuz you I don’t think you
44:02
would have the first time you listened to music you’d have been like ah this is I’m going to listen to this because I think this is going to be a good coping
44:07
strategy for me. you’ve just came across music naturally and I maybe yourself is included in this like
44:13
music is a big way uh to cope with a lot dayto-day whether is it people use music
44:19
that’s that’s the only reason I don’t use my loops in the office anymore because I do just listen to music
44:25
or I’ll have some at least some noise on in the background in in my headphones
44:31
because otherwise I find myself I get distracted more but music it’s a great way to calm down
44:36
it’s a great way to be angry you know like So some people uh like to go like
44:41
boxing and things like because it’s a way to get rid of that anger as well and use it. So a lot of people use music for that reason. I’m thinking maybe more of
44:47
your yourself for that one in terms of like the the type of catharsis gigs that you go to. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
44:52
So music is a coping strategy for a lot of people in for different things. I
44:58
people even use it if to cope in uh the in different vocations like if you’re
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struggling to fall asleep uh you might listen to some people music
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does it seem like a hurt there’s like a like a certain like noise in it
45:16
so I think like music for a lot of people is uh the the obvious one that we’ve all accidentally came across but
45:22
I’m more thinking particularly around I say you actually you three because I
45:28
don’t if you ever spent a lot of time talking to Harry about music but Harry’s really into music. Oh, Harry’s how
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you’ve got one playlist that’s like 9 hours like 97 hours. 97 and I’m and I’m a big music lover
45:38
like you know that we’ve been to together back in the day and all for us here it’s all been uh it’s all
45:45
held quite a significant meaning for us as an accidental an accidental coping
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strategy. I didn’t even think about that when you said there is no mic so you can’t drop anything there is literally I could drop
45:56
the cracker somebody get me Allen key so I get this drop um so that’s I mean another another one
46:03
for me personally which I accidentally discovered was cramming
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as a as a good thing. So like cramming work to a short space of time. So I I
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I’ve started to realize that rather than fight the way that my mind works in terms of um sometimes being available
46:24
for use and sometimes not being I’ve just started realizing that when it is available I
46:30
can really throw myself into it. I can have hyperfocused days. Uh so I’m going
46:36
to get more work done in that short space of time that one day than what somebody else might get done in like two
46:42
or three weeks. Sure. And I’ve I’ve realized that accidentally and it’s helped me with like exams at uni, it’s
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helped me my coursework, helps my job now. Um like as a rule of thumb, if work
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takes me longer than like a day to do. Uh and when I hyperfocus on it, then I
46:59
should be delegating it out. So um that is my accidental coping strategy.
47:07
Miles and Harry, you want to turn to yours? My accidental coping strategy.
47:14
As of recently, it’s playing darts. Like, I’ve never
47:19
played darts. Like, per I couldn’t so much as throw a dart. And now, obviously, we’ve got one in the office.
47:26
Um there’s there’s one at the pub around the corner from mine. Um, and yeah, it
47:32
sounds so silly, but like it’s just taking yourself if if I’m in a situation I’m feeling a bit stressed or tense. If
47:39
I remove myself from that situation and do something else and that just just as
47:44
silly as it sounds, just trying to get a dart in a board or trying to get it specifically somewhere in the board like
47:50
I stop thinking about the thing that’s stressing me out and I’m just like, “Oh, just bloody throw the darts and like
47:56
Yeah. Yeah. I love the fact that we have a dark board in the office with the ring light around it and all that stuff.
48:02
I think it’s one of them where when I got it I was like, you know, I have these ideas, oh, you know, people
48:08
will probably have meetings over a game of darts and they’ll have conversations. But you think that’ll never really happen. Realistically, it’s probably
48:14
just a bit of a gimmick and it’ll never really get used. You know, darts will get lost or broke and then that’s it. But people genuinely like
48:20
I think it’s ace. I think it’s so ace. The best thing is is that it people are having meetings that they’re not even
48:26
meaning to have now like on a lunch break. They’ll be like throwing a few darts and oh did you hear from that
48:32
person last week blah blah the dingdong and then yeah and they’ll end up just talking about stuff.
48:37
Yeah, I love it. I think it’s a great idea. We’re um on about potentially getting
48:42
some of the machines from Arcade Warehouse as well cuz I they’re selling some stuff now and um
48:49
unbelievable like dance mats and stuff. I don’t know what yet, but some some crazy. Oh, please get that shooter one.
48:55
Whatever it’s called. Time crisis. Yeah, that one. Is it Is that the one
49:00
where you press on the pedal and then you duck and then you unpress it? I just know you’ve got a pink and a blue
49:05
gun. Yeah, that’s it. That’s Yeah, that. Yeah. Brilliant.
49:11
Um, get work done. Uh, big ranch deer hunting or whatever it’s called. Like
49:16
Yes. Yeah. You got the pump action. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It’s great. Oh god.
49:22
Where are we? Are we moving on? What are we on? What are we doing? Harry lost all lost train of thought though.
49:28
Lost all sorts of train. Yeah. Accidental figured out, Harry. It’s always done.
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I don’t have any. So, you don’t have any coping strate ones that I’ve accidentally found out like
49:40
the one about breathing. That’s obviously not accidental because let’s use an AI to do that. Also, that was what Jake told.
49:46
He’s like square breathing. He’s looking. Well, like obviously this is a family-friendly podcast, so I can’t say
49:51
what I used to do when I got stressed. Yo,
49:56
no, I don’t I don’t I don’t mean that.
50:01
Oh, right. I just I mean that I used to do a thing that I think I got told off by
50:07
many people for doing it. All right. Where it involved my hand to my head.
50:13
Oh, okay. No. Okay. But that’s in the shape of a fist. That’s what Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And that’s and obviously that was a really bad cop
50:19
strategy because everyone told me that that’s really bad. But it’s really common in people that
50:26
are neurodyivergent. Um Yeah. Yeah. It’s it’s really common in people that are neurody divergent. And um often, you
50:34
know, for many reasons. Sometimes it’s a sensory thing. Sometimes it is a way of managing emotions. Uh
50:39
but it’s pretty bad though because of your you’ll hurt your brain. Oh yeah.
50:45
Yeah. Um, great. I mean, yeah. Yeah. But, but no, that so it was almost like so I would
50:51
say that often people do that and not all the time, you know, but often people do that in the absence of coping
50:58
strategies. So, I’ve not had it almost becomes like a filler coping strategy until you get something better. I’ve not had a stride yet.
51:04
What? Coping strategy sessions. So, I will next week. Nice. So, let’s maybe a month from now
51:11
you can say what your new coping strategies are. No, but like so at the hub you probably knew that my could be
51:18
with the music part. I used to have a speaker where I washed up my pots and used to blare out my music cuz I’m in
51:24
like a separate room at the hub when it used to be there. So that was a way of coping
51:29
to get me through it. So music. Yeah, pretty much. Yeah, I had music on every single shift I was in and then
51:35
when I got to Fish Lake, I couldn’t have it. So yeah. Yeah, I’m looking forward to seeing what we help you come up with in
51:40
your coping strategy sessions. Yeah, it might even be like finding more efficient ways to use your current ones
51:46
as well. It doesn’t have to be completely new coping strategies. So, that’s uh that’s going to be really interesting to
51:52
find out. But it was it’s interesting as well that you’ll be go who is your session with?
51:58
Ed, I think. Ed. Okay. So, yeah, you you’ve got the guy who pretty much founded it in our team then. uh yeah to he tell you more
52:06
than I can but um I found it I think he’ll find it really useful that you’ll go into those
52:12
sessions with already that pre uh understanding thing of like you mentioned earlier on one of the shorts
52:18
um you already know grounding techniques you already know breathing techniques you know you already know your 54 321’s
52:24
and counting the colors in the room and feeling your feet the ground under your feet and well NI told me that but yeah
52:30
AI told you that didn’t I tell you Are they going to replace our jobs all week? They might do actually.
52:37
Yeah. Chat GBT. They might taking his jobs. I I would say that AI may replace
52:45
um our knowledge, but it will never take our freedom.
52:52
Take our personality. Yeah. Well, they can take our freedom. They could take our freedom.
52:58
They could take our freedom. They can and they will. They can and they will. Terminator. Awesome. Um, I remember you said that you wanted to
53:05
you wanted to buy a robot or something when it comes out by Tesla or something. Uh, are we talking about the child
53:13
friendly version again? No, it’s No, it’s literally like a robot where like I think they tested it and it just fell on itself.
53:20
The Tesla bot, the Tesla house bot, right? You won’t be It will take you probably about 10 years, 20 years to even think
53:27
about getting that in your house. Well, we’ll see. A bit of money. Elon Musk seem to think it’ll be on markets
53:33
within five years and it’ll cost about five grand, which for most people for for everything that it can do. I think I
53:40
think loads of people. Think of how expensive a kid is in like the first like year of life. Mhm. A lot of
53:45
five grand a decent little investment. Did a little saving. So you think about it do everything.
53:52
It’s supposed to basically do um like all the cleaning, the cooking. Like if you want it to certain things you might
53:58
enjoy. So, I might like cooking, so I might not ask it to do that. But like, take your dogs out. Anyway, it’s crazy
54:04
stuff. Um, it’s it’s probably for a lot of people worth five grand, even if they
54:09
save for years for it. Um, yeah, that makes sense. It’s not a podcast about Elon Musk. No,
54:15
he has enough media. This is He needs no more publicity. Yeah. Yeah. Or money. Uh, Miles, do you have any
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more accidental coping strategies that you want to um maybe not so much accidental, but a
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straight up coping strategy that I’ve used before is just getting counseling. Like it like it’s the age old thing as
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to, you know, painkillers will make your broken leg not hurt anymore, but the
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thing that will ultimately aid your broken leg is physio. Like the pain will stop the pain, but like it doesn’t fix
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the broken leg. The physio doesn’t directly fix the broken leg, but like it helps strengthen it. It helps it get back to what it should be or get back to
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some degree of strength. Yeah. Um, so yeah, you’re not a big advocate of counseling talking therapist. Yeah. Like
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massively. So CBT the works like it’s I I I think the
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counseling that I’ve had um has been invaluable. Um, unreal.
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Yeah. That’s mind. And that’s on mine, baby. Yeah. Yeah. Love it. Absolutely. there’s a local mind in your area
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and you know actually just while we’re doing this little bit of the podcast I’m going to
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just talk about that particular coping stretch because I’m very I’m conscious us being quite either education or being
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quite social careled at times we don’t often talk about health because it’s always like same as everybody else talk
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to your GP but we don’t say that you know what I mean we’ll we’ll support people to go to the GPA podcast and things like but
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we on things like our podcast we’re not going to find ourselves talking about it very much but Um yeah, you’re a big
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advocate for talk therapies. I think it’s great that people um access talking therapies and it works really well in a
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lot of cases as a combination sorry in combination with our support. Yes.
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Is like any bit of advice you could give people that might just be thinking about trying any counseling or therapist for
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the first time? Um I mean the obvious the the the the free route would be via the NHS. um
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albeit the super long waiting times. So, it leads you in a position where you’re
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likely to want to pay for it. Um there are like low income schemes for a lot of
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like counselors and um like talking therapies and stuff. So um so just even
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even though you might see you see it as an expense, it might not be as expensive as you think because there are means in
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place to help people that can’t really afford things to afford. So so even private therapy might be more
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accessible than people think. Yes, absolutely. Um, and
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I don’t know in a in a world where we in a very disposable world where everything
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is kind of I don’t know like technology becomes so obsolete after a year and um
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big big throwaway culture like throwaway like fast fashion all this type thing. If you think of the amount of money that
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you would spend on clothes, drinks, coffee, um shoes, like just things like
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this, justify, I don’t know, how many counseling sessions that pair of shoes cost cuz
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like you buy yourself the shoes, buy yourself the counseling because it’s
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it’s like an investment into yourself type thing. So, and ultimately people invest in other parts of the body, don’t they? they’ll
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invest in, you know, um, a lot of the time superficial muscles because we don’t really need a chest and arms like
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we did back when we were evolving. I’m not saying exercise isn’t good, by the way. Absolutely. And that can help prevent meal health,
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of course. But like, if you’re going to invest in that part of your body, think about
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if you’re going to spend 30 quid a month in a gym membership, spend 30 quid a week on counseling if it’s
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that frequent type thing. like and it can be as as as good value for money as
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30 quid a session. Obviously there there are varying scales of and your brain’s always you know it’s an
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organ right it’s not it’s not a muscle but they say you almost train it like a muscle don’t you you know um so
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that’s an awesome bit of advice um and I think for a lot of people uh you know
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just hearing you know young lad like yourself obviously like having a laugh and stuff
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like that talking about uh counseling and talking therapies will just remove some of the stigma away from it for some people hopefully so and like it’s again given
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stride is what Shride does and I’ve I’ve said to you a couple of times that like my job’s just social media. So like I’m
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not actually going out and coaching and helping nerd a diverent adults lives. But I don’t know, even in this setting
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here in a podcast where let’s say it’s a a young lad as strapping in as burly as me saying to
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get speaking therapy like it’s it’s it’s hopefully to try and break a stigma down and yeah I’m not an independence coach
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or an employment coach but get counseling like I don’t know like
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it’s been invaluable for me. Um,
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shout out Lee’s mind. Shout out Helen. My actual girl. Yeah,
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thank you Helen. Thank you Helen. Um, to be fair actually I would I would thank Helen as uh as a as a friend of
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you and you know and I guess as a as your boss
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as you got way less freakouts now and you
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actually can stay on task. Wow. Cheers, Helen.
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Lovely. Thank you, Helen. Um, okay. Who’s next? Let’s Um, have we popped on?
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Did we do the first one? We did, didn’t we? Did we? We did the first one. Yeah, we’ve not done one in a while. Let’s do No, we haven’t done one in a while. Ready? Three, two, one, bang.
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Oh, I won. I I’m so good at sound effects.
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Cotton me cracker. Uh, what’s one ADHD trait in women you wish people understood better?
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Damn. Um, one ADHD trait in women that you wish people understood better. Um, I
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think everything socially and behaviorally is geared
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towards correcting boys type thing. Whereas like um
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I don’t know. It’s it’s it’s that where I think the vast overlooking of neurody
1:00:39
divergent women is why what do you mean why are women overlooked with ADHD? Um,
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I don’t know. Like I think that given the societal like behavioral like settings in place, I don’t know. It’s
1:00:55
like you can kind of maybe more understand this behavior from a boy. So you then lean into like actively
1:01:04
correcting that, diagnosing that, sort that out. Whereas I I mean obviously I can’t speak cuz I’m not a woman but like
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I fear from a woman’s POV is maybe the no just stop just just keep that to
1:01:16
yourself and like just it’s everything’s very um what’s the word like compartmentalized
1:01:22
like p like push to the back push to the back of your head type thing or like I’m saying push to the back of your head
1:01:27
like women are sort of stifled like they’re not allowed to
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it’s almost like they’re not allowed to be nerd in theense that do you know what that that is
1:01:39
um definitely an interpretation
1:01:46
it masking in general is hiring women um and so obviously uh and and that is like from clients
1:01:53
that I’ve spoke to from think I’ve seen the internet from some statistics that are out there women just tend to mask
1:02:00
more so they’re really good at hiding almost the fact that they’ve actually got neurody diversion or ADHD
1:02:05
trait Mhm. Um, and one of the reason it reasons are and uh I’m going to I’m going to big up
1:02:12
uh the women among us here than us. They’re very good at putting the self second. Yeah. Um and the one time when
1:02:20
women do tend to uh go in for, you know, more support, diagnosis, things like
1:02:27
that is it often tends to be after children are born. Sure. Uh because they’re realizing then it’s not just affecting them, it’s help it’s
1:02:33
affecting the children. Yeah. So, um, big up the women out there. You’re
1:02:39
better than us. And, uh, yeah, big up my wife, Beth.
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Uh, oh god. Um, yeah,
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big up the ladies. Well, definitely on the thing with her children. She’s just about as resilient as they come. So, um, NB have anything
1:02:57
they want to add to that one or should we move on to? Um, not really. I’d say move on to the next. Brilliant. Uh Miles,
1:03:02
it’s a bit difficult to add to to it. You and Harry, let’s just do like that for the rest of this and and yes, quick fire.
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Um maybe one person just answer the next ones so it’s quicker than all of us do.
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Bang. It depends on the microphone accidentally there. Well, ruined.
1:03:22
You’d be all right. Start podcast again. No, I’m not doing that again. All right.
1:03:34
During during the stride Christmas party, Logan Spay, Jake Rusby, Mars’s cat, who speaks fluent Yorkshire, and
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the entire Le squad are stuck in a lift. Who’s taking control? Who’s masking their nerves? So, out of
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Logan, Jake, Cass, and
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when you say the entire lead squad, you mean like the football team? Yeah.
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out of who’s who’s keeping the nerves? Who’s keeping the nerves? I reckon that
1:04:04
it will be anybody but the football team given that like if I don’t know it’s Jake’s not keeping his nerves.
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He’s with the entire And I’m not I’m with the entire football. Yeah. Everybody except the No, I think the football team would keep
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would be No, I don’t know. They’d be panicking. We’d be panicking because we’re meeting our football team.
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M I think your cat I’m sure is the only one keeping its nerves.
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Your cat to be fair. He doesn’t know where like when he is like he’s just happy to be
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involved. He’s he’s he’s more of a concept than he is a cat. He’s like he’s
1:04:41
So yeah, he’s not only is he keeping his nerves in the lift, he doesn’t know there like he’s Yeah,
1:04:47
you know cat. Yeah, he’s crushed it. Yeah. Casius. Casius is absolutely Do
1:04:52
you know what? Leads might be all right though. That’s just the one thing. They are used to going down,
1:04:58
right? Anyway, God, fine. I’ll do this one as well then. Ready? Three, two, one. Bang.
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You’re not Nobody else. Why is nobody else doing the bang? Oh, why is it just me doing the
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Yeah, this next time.
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Masking in masking in relationships is the topic. Oh god. Um, specifically, what’s one thing
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you pretend to like in relationships?
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I’m actually thinking that. I’m not coming in. I’m not answering that. I’m not. Chess can’t answer it. I’m not
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Logan and Mosque. I think uh I mean for for me um I’m single. I don’t
1:05:46
have to answer. What’s one thing you pretend to like? Exactly.
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Exactly. Cooking. Hey. Hey. Yeah, that’s what I pretend to like.
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Jesus Christ, Miles.
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Yeah, that’s a good one. What was the question again? Mask skin in relationships.
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Okay. Well, just in terms of
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I don’t know if you do. I guess what I was going to say is if you was in a relationship with somebody that was neurotypical, so like
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doesn’t have, you know, autism, ADHD, any um diagnosed or selfidentified
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conditions. So, would you feel that you would mask? Would you would you try and
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Probably not. No. You’d be quite open about who you are as a person. You think I’m ever asking? I don’t think
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he can. I don’t think he can. I have that a masking bone in my body.
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Um, I was going to say, you do realize you’re asking, Logan. What about you?
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Usually, I’d mask it. Would you? See, I can imagine you being the most pragmatic person ever and be like, “Hi,
1:07:01
this is it.” like this is what it is. Like I say to someone, did you know I had autism? Go now. Because most people don’t know have
1:07:07
autism until they spend like probably more than a week. I’d probably tell someone in the first five minutes of the meeting then.
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Oh no. I’d never do that. Hi, I’m Sheridan. I’m autistic.
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I’ve got a card. That’s interesting. That’s interesting then. So like you’ve got Absolutely balling at this. So you So basically you you would mask.
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You wouldn’t. No, I wouldn’t. Or at least I’m I’m too honest. Yeah. Yeah.
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Oh, well, I wouldn’t ask it for the whole entire time. Well, yeah, that would be a bit awkward.
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No. Three years into a relationship and they still don’t know. Uh, what neurody divergent condition
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would Santa benefit from? Oh,
1:07:49
what neurody divergent condition is OCD one? Do you know what I I would say what I would say what I’ve got.
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What? Well, he’s got to do everything in one night, aren’t he? So really when I say cramming ADHD hyperfocus cra
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in one night. You can’t compare yourself to Santa because it’s impossible. Is it?
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My costume says differently. You just told me that’s your uncle’s costume.
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Right. Santa is on a podcast. Do you there? Yeah.
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You said you were going to talk to him about that. It’s a good job. We’re at an offsite location in Lapland.
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Yeah. Yes. Not Doncaster. But you said D.
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No, not not But you said on the podcast that uh Seven Studios made all them crackers.
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Who? No. Six. Six studios. Six studios. Six studios. They’re not quite as good
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as seven. Six. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Please do not say that on a podcast. I
1:08:45
can’t. Yeah, they’re not. Oh god. They used to
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be a nut 789. Do uh anyone else want
1:09:00
stupid joke? Is there only one time again? Neuro divergent uh job center once or
1:09:07
something like that. ADHD that you benefit from that hyper focus OCD. We in agreement. Yeah, I’d agree. He was obsessive about
1:09:14
like he’d never get it done in one night. No. Well, you can’t get it done in one night. Miles, it does. Does it every year?
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All right. Sorry, Miles. Ready? Three to one. Pow. See, I did.
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Who did the last one? No, SHZ wasn’t involved. Yeah, I should have I should have popped it with SHZ.
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Hello. What could What could business add to make their workplace more
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neuroincclusive? What could a business to make? Who wrote this? What could businesses add to their
1:09:45
workplace to be more neuroincclusive? Right. So, I wrote it blind.
1:09:51
Uh, I’m going to I’m going to plug one of our partners right now. Uh, and something that we’ve just ordered. So,
1:09:57
you know, I’m not going to endorse anything that we’re not uh using ourselves. I’m not going to endorse anything that
1:10:03
we’ve not been given for free. We we we’ve paid good money for this. Uh,
1:10:08
and but not as much as you think. Good value for money. Wow. Ambace, guys. You you need to check out
1:10:16
Ambass. They’ve done us a uh sensory nook for our office. Uh it acts as like
1:10:22
a breakout space, stress room, quiet workspace if you need to. Sensory neutral.
1:10:27
Uh it’s going to have a um uh it’s going to be noise cancelled everything and movable. So if I have a
1:10:33
move office, I can take it with me. What office is it in? Uh it’s going to be on the downstairs floor. Oh. Yeah.
1:10:38
You’re going upstairs. So there’s lots of ways that businesses could be more neuroinclusive and we do
1:10:44
offer consultations to businesses. I’m not going to give away too much on the podcast, but definitely check out our
1:10:49
partners at Ambi Space. Um, have you seen that Simpsons episode with when Lisa and Homer are going to the
1:10:54
sensory deprivation tanks and they get repossessed while Homer’s in one? That’s a great one.
1:11:00
Yeah, it’s a great one. This this next cracker, I don’t know what is in this, but this Ollie’s got to
1:11:06
answer this one cuz there’s no more. Okay, so this is for There’s that one. Oh, there’s another one. There’s two.
1:11:12
Oh, there’s there’s two. Well, Ollie, Ollie, come and pull both. Come and come and join me. We don’t know
1:11:17
what’s inside them yet. Really seats. We’ve got just sit on Santa’s lap.
1:11:23
Ollie, who is Ollie, who is my cousin that is on work
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experience with us this week. Uh, give the camera a wave, Ollie. Um, and Ollie,
1:11:35
do you want to white or orange? White. Oh, bang. God, that was a loud one.
1:11:42
Bang. Got well loud that one. Can you read that for us?
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Pass the center. What are stride 2025 plans? Well, I’m glad you asked.
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Thanks for that, Ollie. Yeah, you are terrible. That went so badly.
1:11:59
I feel so included right now. Well, thanks for that, Ollie. Um, in
1:12:05
past strides planned for 2025, that didn’t go well. include coming to some
1:12:10
new locations. Um, so just a little sprinkle of curiosity, stride maybe
1:12:18
coming to somewhere near new near you. If you are neurody divergent and you’re after sport to become more independent,
1:12:24
get into the workplace or indeed build up your social skills and health and
1:12:30
everything else that makes life wonderful. Then we might be coming to a neighborhood near you, namely Sheffield,
1:12:36
Leeds, York, potentially even randomly Debon. Even random,
1:12:42
did you not hear your place? Please get in touch with us at info@stride yorkshire.co.uk. What is
1:12:48
Please ask me before you email. Um, but yeah, we
1:12:54
are doing that. We are improving our social presence, our, you know, I think
1:12:59
we we teed that up on the first video as well, talking about how we want our socials and YouTube and podcasts to be
1:13:05
its own organic brand, which draws in a neurody divergent audience that love to be here and and engage with other
1:13:11
neurody divergent people on our channels. Um, I um our team’s growing. Our support’s
1:13:18
getting better and better every day. Um, and we’re constantly learning. Uh we just
1:13:24
want to keep delivering for neurody divergent people but do it in a slightly larger way.
1:13:29
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Ollie, take two.
1:13:35
I would say that is I can see him getting up. Let’s see what it says. Oh go.
1:13:41
Come on. Come on then Ollie. Let’s see what this one. Pop it yourself. Ollie. I bet this is going to be one of the
1:13:47
pass the center. 25 plans twice just so we can
1:13:53
£600. Past the cracker. If independent coaching were a Christmas present, what
1:13:59
would you be? What would be inside the box? Um,
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a a game boy. A game boy? Yeah. Would be in the box. Why would the Game
1:14:12
Boy be in the box, Logan? Because everyone’s a Game Boy. Yeah. Fair enough. I don’t. Yeah, very
1:14:20
everybody wants right. You are getting game boys and you’ll like them. I’ve got two. I’m fine.
1:14:25
Everyone wants game boys. Ollie, do you know much about str independence coaching? Uh, no I don’t. Would you like to know more?
1:14:30
Yes. Well, I’m glad you asked, Ollie.
1:14:36
Again, take a sit on Santa’s lap while he tells you about the stride independence coaching plan. Independence coaching is onetoone
1:14:42
coaching. Can you imagine straight spiel? That would have been class. But guys, if you want to know anything else
1:14:48
about Stride as a service, you can head to our website www.stride york.co.uk.
1:14:54
But that is not Let’s Yeah, that they wasn’t purposely all added in right to the end there.
1:15:01
That was just rounding. It’s a coincidence. Yeah, I think like what a barmy
1:15:06
coincidence that like it was the last two. Oh, you’ve got marked on your side, haven’t you? You can see which ones are
1:15:12
which. You knew which ones are the the the strike questions in. You knew which ones had the right questions in, didn’t
1:15:17
you? How do you know? Probably just purposely put them at the
1:15:23
bottom of the pile. Are you sure you’re not a magician? Oh, could be. Oh, could be.
1:15:29
Right. Well, I reckon that’s Let’s make these guys disappear. Uh, if you are a magician, thank you so much
1:15:35
for tuning Thank you so much for tuning in to uh episode five of
1:15:40
Stride by Stride. This was our Christmas podcast if you can’t tell. Um, and uh,
1:15:49
now it makes sense. We’ll see you in the new year. See you in the new year. See you in the new year.
1:15:55
Bye everyone. That’s a wrap on that. Smashed it.
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